It's
an undeniable fact that breakups are never easy. Such moment in your
life can really bring you down, even if you were the one who
initiated it. In its aftermath, you would seek comfort through the
presence of your family or closest friends. There are also times when
the pain is just so great and overwhelming that you would desperately
find the best means to get back with your ex boyfriend.
First
and foremost, fighting for the broken relationship happens when you
are really in love with your ex partner. The feelings are just so
strong that you could barely control them, letting them take over you
in the process. As a woman, you basically place a great deal of
importance on feelings and emotions, and you're rarely carefree when
it comes to relationships. You must admit that when you start a
relationship, your imagination always runs wild and would do anything
to protect it and care for it as well.
So
when you experience a break up, you tend to get your fragile heart
broken so easily. And if ever your ex was the one who initiated the
break up, you would be unable to cope with that decision, especially
if you are head over heels in love with him. If you find yourself in
this situation, make it a point that you don't beg for your man to
come back, because the act of begging will make you seem desperate
and will discourage him in the process.
What
do you do now? The reality is that the plan to approach your ex
depends on where you left things between the two of you. Did the two
of you break up in a face to face conversation? Did you tell him the
reasons why you need some space and resolved in such a radical
decision?
If
it was a sudden break up, where you just left a note, a text message
or an e-mail behind for him to read, then meeting with him personally
can be hard. You must open yourself to the possibility that he may
even refuse to talk to you. However, if you broke up with him with
the courage to tell it to him face to face, then there are bigger
chances that he would show up.
If
you're going to meet with him, make sure that you know exactly what
you are going to tell him. Just be prepared for any outcome when you
try to get back with your ex boyfriend after break up. There may have
been a lot of accumulated negative feelings (like anger, resentment,
etc.) that were left unsaid that you need to deal with now. Such
things should get out of the closet if ever you're planning to have a
fresh start with him, and give yourself and him another chance to fix
the broken relationship.
If
you were the ones who were left behind, then you may need to try
another approach to get back with your ex boyfriend. Know that there
are many reasons why men leave their partners. If he left you for
another woman, then you're facing a competition that you have to deal
with; if he left because he fell out of love, then you need to move
on no matter how hard it could be. There's really no exact formula or
magic recipe that you can use to remedy your situation when it comes
to this; but the important thing is you don't lose your self-respect
and hope that one day things will be alright, with or without him in
your life!
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